01 March, 2012

Patience grasshopper

2012 has proven to be an epic battle between my head and heart. I am trying my darndest to just be patient and see where life takes us, but let me tell you... patience is not this chick's strong suit!

That about sums it up really. I just thought after graduating and getting married we were supposed to go into this magical state of togetherness. As in, we have all of our shiz togetherness.

Sadly, not the case. I have yet to figure out "what I want to be when I grow up." Or even what I would like to do to make money in the mean time, because this girl is TIRED of waiting tables! Hubs, bless his heart, is in the same boat.

Unlike me, he at least found a good job in the mean time that he's actually starting to like more and more.(Praise the Good Lord for that blessing!) He loves being in the Air Force and if you've been following our blog you know we've been trying to no avail for him to cross over from reserves to active duty. Initially the recruiter made it sound as if this would happen quickly and painlessly. I quit looking for jobs in our area, stopped decorating our current home, and braced our families for what seemed like the inevitability of an impending move in our near future. After what was supposed to be a "quick" transition has already turned into over 3 months of waiting, waiting, waiting, we are throwing in the towel to this last obstacle.

I think tonight we finally reached the conclusion that it just doesn't seem to be in the cards for us right now. Everything paper work wise is good to go until the re ran his credit report.

When Stephen was 18 and moved out on his own he had two credit cards in his name that he maxed out and only made minimum payments on. When he was out of work for a while when he was in his earlier 20s he had just quit paying them all together and basically forgot about them.(Hello, it's been 7 years people!). Well the popped up on his credit report but appeared to be closed because so much time had elapsed so the AF wanted a letter from both companies saying the accounts were closed and an essay basically from Stephen explaining why he had accrued the debt in the first place.

He explained the actual situation to the recruiter and initially they said the only way they could take him is if he paid them off. Um ya, we don't have that kind of money right now. So then they decided he could still enlist and set up an 18 month payment plan with the companies to get it taken care of. The catch is that he would have to show that he made three months payments first before they could approve his paper work and move on to the next step in the process.

Fine, ok, whatever. We can do that. Except for the teeny tiny detail that one of the companies isn't interested in a payment plan. Both companies are passed the point of trying to collect since the debt has been out so long, but one is only willing to have the amount paid in full. Just for curiosity I asked the lady on the phone how much that would be- $2,400.02. Uhhh, ya. No. We don't have that kind of money to lay down in one lump payment, we do still have other bills to pay.

So basically, what I'm getting at is our final shot at AD was shot down today.

We're both kind of bummed. We were actually looking forward to moving and getting into new adventures. Hubby wanted to be able to use the skills he learned in tech full time and be around his plane more than one weekend a month.(That boy loves him some airplanes, I tell you what!)

I guess I'm coming to terms with the fact that it just isn't in the cards for us right now. I think I've mentioned before but I can tell God is teaching me patience in 2012 and this is just one of those things.

Stephen hasn't called his recruiter to tell him yet, so I'm holding on to a teeny tiny sliver of hope that maybe there's something else we can do. But I need to just just wrap my head around it and accept the change of plans.

Now... if only I could see what the real plan is if it's not ADAF!

Don't you wish you just had a crystal ball so you knew what direction to go in? Or at least that God would make his plan a littleeeee more obvious so even us exceptionally dense people could follow better. :)
I guess it's back to the job hunt for me and more patience for the both of us as we continue to learn that getting your act together doesn't just happen over night. Prayers for patience and clarity are appreciated!

Happy Thursday(almost Friday!!) y'all!

1 comment:

  1. I can completely relate! I thought I'd have my life figured out by now, but I don't. And I know all about playing the waiting game in the military... hope it all works itself out soon!